But the way that people would assume that there was something “wrong” with him is what started to make me feel shame for him. She recently visited and spent the weekend sulking and snapping at us all, causing a terrible atmosphere. Then, accept that as they age and go to school, you are going to have less and less influence on them and outside factors more.

It’s possible too, that she may fear she will ultimately have to make a choice between him and you and your sister and of course, this may be a fear that you share with her.Itcouldbehelpfultodiscussthesefeelingswithatherapistorcounselorwhocanhelpyouprocessandunderstandthembetter. Sometimes teenagers don’t really want that, they want you to listen to them and the language they use, especially around anxiety.

I’ve also committed the unforgivable sin of bending back pages for future reference 😂 My only small negative was that (similarly to other similar books) it became a bit “samey” as there are only so many ways you can give the same message. So we see ever increasing safety rules: no swing sets on the school playground, no walking yourself home from school, no outdoor recess when it is cold, no failing grades, everyone gets a trophy… and more pressure on children to succeed in extracurricular activities, hobbies, to get ahead. This book will help you connect with your daughter and feel good about your mothering as you raise the bright and brilliant young women of tomorrow.There is one small detail that I would like to mention, though, in the hope that it will provide some crumb of comfort. And don’t get me wrong I loved being a mum, we had so many amazing moments together and I was a good mum! What can happen to many women of your mother’s generation is that they put so much into their families that when they get to a certain point in life they find themselves feeling resentful, bitter and angry, and thinking, “What about me? It’s only her opinions and experience of course so not at all factual and should not be taken as a book of solutions.