given the title it's obv very heterocentric although she does occasionally mention pieces of advice from her gay friends. She's also not really trying to do anything universal. I do not want to turn this review into a rant but, in one section she writes about how wrong it is when dudes, on a scale of one to ten rate women on the basis of their appearance, it’s disrespecting and impudent and then herself proceeds to rate men based on their ‘hotness’ 🤦‍♀️ She also thinks keeping a tab of all her crushes by making an excel spreadsheet is cool. Imagine a guy boasting about this, he would be immediately doomed a creepo by our society …. Where is the equality now? This fake feminism in which privileged cis women are allowed to behave like creeps in the name of rightness, is what I feel extremely wrong. Blythe Roberson’s sharp observational humor is met by her open-hearted willingness to revel in the ugliest warts and shimmering highs of choosing to live our lives amongst other humans. She collects her crushes like ill cared-for pets, skewers her own suspect decisions, and assures readers that any date you can mess up, she can top tenfold. And really, was that date even a date in the first place? I was under the impression that it was proper to only have one crush at a time. So after much consideration, I got serious and chose to love just one boy who would never love me.” (pg. 21)

When too many men are monopolizing the headlines with their reprehensible behavior, Roberson takes a closer look at the system that breeds and normalizes this bad behavior, and guides us through the perils of dating -- from crushes to break-ups -- with a healthy dose of heart, humor, and feminism." -- PAPER Magazine It is entirely men's and the patriarchy's fault that she likes to stare at good-looking men. In fact, her staring at and drooling over good-looking man is one of the ways she is being oppressed. While she is criticizing men when they stare at and drool over women because that is objectification. She collects her crushes like ill cared-for pets, skewers her own suspect decisions, and assures readers that any date you can mess up, she can top tenfold. And really, was that date even a date in the first place? ( From Flatiron) The jokes and humor are either very specific to the writer’s own quirks and interests (“One Direction” and Nora Ephron, for example, come up a lot), or just the homogeneous New York media scene in general.Sometimes it’s hard to know if a date is, well, a date. For me, 90% of the time, when I go on dates, I think “do they like me and that’s why they asked me on this so-called date? Or are they just being nice because they want to sleep with me?” Unless it’s explicitly stated, it’s pretty unclear the intentions of a date. A lot of us are pretty skeptical about dating for so many reasons, especially when it comes to dating apps, one of them being because of the hookup culture we’re in. It’s so prominent and sometimes people can be shady with their intentions. Date the person you want to be. How to Date Men When You Hate Men is one of the funniest books I’ve read in a long time. Blythe Roberson does a fantastic job describing the universal frustration with dating and finding “the one.” If you are a female identified person who happens to have dated, currently dates, or wants to date men, there’s something in this book for you. If you are none of those things there is probably still something in this book for you. So here are her core points up until the 20% mark to which I forced myself to read (DNFing a book goes against my very nature):

This is to say that you shouldn’t neglect yourself and who you are, but if someone has traits that you aspire to have, try and absorb some of that. Romantic friendships are a thing! Founded in 2010, Thought Catalog is owned and operated by The Thought & Expression Company, Inc. For over a decade, we've been at the bleeding edge of media, pioneering an infrastructure for creatives to flourish both artistically and financially.

When you're inside a giant societal trend, it can be hard to see that something big is happening and [easy to] instead feel like a disgusting goblin because you've failed to trap a man," Roberson says. "However: It's normal. Women don't have to structure their lives around men. A lot more women are single! It's an actual thing that is happening." With biting wit, Roberson explores the dynamics of heterosexual dating in the age of #MeToo." — The New York Times